<div id="article-title" style="margin-top: -40px; color: #333333; font-family: 'Avenir Next', Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff;">
<h1 style="margin: 2em 0px 5px 8px; padding: 0px 100px 0.2em 0px; font-size: 2.2em; font-weight: 500; text-shadow: #cccccc 2px 2px 3px; border: 0px none;">How to Find and Cultivate a Successful Intimate Relationship</h1>
</div>
<p class="by-line" style="margin: 0px 0px 1em; padding: 0px; line-height: 1.5em; color: #333333; font-family: 'Avenir Next', Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff;"><em>By&nbsp;<a style="color: #a30006;" title="EzineArticles Expert Author Doron Gil, Ph.D." href="https://ezinearticles.com/expert/Doron_Gil,_Ph.D./742948" rel="author">Doron Gil, Ph.D.</a><span class="author-divider" style="font-size: 18px;">&nbsp;&nbsp;|&nbsp;&nbsp;</span>&nbsp;<span class="submitted-date">Submitted On July 28, 2018</span></em></p>
<div id="article-top-controls-container" style="width: 601.906px; height: 30px; position: relative; color: #333333; font-family: 'Avenir Next', Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff;"><a class="trigger-modal article-action" style="color: #333333; display: inline-block; text-decoration-line: none; padding: 0px; margin: 2px 2px 10px; border-radius: 5px; font-weight: bold; font-size: 0.9em;" title="Recommend Article" href="https://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Find-and-Cultivate-a-Successful-Intimate-Relationship&amp;id=9985585#/rpc/article/emailArticle/form.json?callback=setupEmailForm" rel="nofollow"><img class="article-sprite envelope-icon" style="border: 0px; background: url('//img.ezinearticles.com/theme/responsive/spriting/article-v2.png') 0px -124px no-repeat; height: 30px; width: 30px; vertical-align: middle; padding-right: 3px;" src="https://img.ezinearticles.com/spriting/trans.gif" alt="Recommend Article" /></a>&nbsp;<a class="article-action" style="color: #333333; display: inline-block; text-decoration-line: none; padding: 0px; margin: 2px 2px 10px; border-radius: 5px; font-weight: bold; font-size: 0.9em;" title="View comments for this article." href="https://ezinearticles.com/comment.php?How-to-Find-and-Cultivate-a-Successful-Intimate-Relationship&amp;id=9985585" rel="nofollow"><img class="article-sprite chat-icon" style="border: 0px; background: url('//img.ezinearticles.com/theme/responsive/spriting/article-v2.png') 0px -28px no-repeat; height: 30px; width: 30px; vertical-align: middle; padding-right: 3px;" src="https://img.ezinearticles.com/spriting/trans.gif" alt="Article Comments" /></a>&nbsp;<a id="print-article" class="article-action " style="color: #333333; display: inline-block; text-decoration-line: none; padding: 0px; margin: 2px 2px 10px; border-radius: 5px; font-weight: bold; font-size: 0.9em;" title="Print Article" href="https://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Find-and-Cultivate-a-Successful-Intimate-Relationship&amp;id=9985585" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener"><img class="article-sprite print-icon" style="border: 0px; background: url('//img.ezinearticles.com/theme/responsive/spriting/article-v2.png') 0px -188px no-repeat; height: 30px; width: 30px; vertical-align: middle; padding-right: 3px;" src="https://img.ezinearticles.com/spriting/trans.gif" alt="Print Article" /></a>
<div id="social-shares-popout" class="share-bar" style="height: auto; float: right;"><a style="color: #a30006; width: 20px; height: 20px; position: relative; text-decoration-line: none; margin: 7px 3px 0px; float: left;" title="Share this article on Facebook" href="https://ezinearticles.com/share/?id=9985585&amp;site=facebook" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener"><img class="site-sprite facebook-icon" style="border: 0px solid #cccccc; background: url('//img.ezinearticles.com/spriting/theme/desk/site-v10.png') 0px 0px no-repeat; height: 20px; width: 20px; border-radius: 2px; opacity: 1; box-shadow: #999999 1px 1px 2px inset;" src="https://img.ezinearticles.com/spriting/trans.gif" alt="Share this article on Facebook" /></a><a style="color: #a30006; width: 20px; height: 20px; position: relative; text-decoration-line: none; margin: 7px 3px 0px; float: left;" title="Share this article on Twitter" href="https://ezinearticles.com/share/?id=9985585&amp;site=twitter" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener"><img class="site-sprite twitter-icon" style="border: 0px solid #cccccc; background: url('//img.ezinearticles.com/spriting/theme/desk/site-v10.png') 0px -49px no-repeat; height: 20px; width: 20px; border-radius: 2px; opacity: 1; box-shadow: #999999 1px 1px 2px inset;" src="https://img.ezinearticles.com/spriting/trans.gif" alt="Share this article on Twitter" /></a><a style="color: #a30006; width: 20px; height: 20px; position: relative; text-decoration-line: none; margin: 7px 3px 0px; float: left;" title="Share this article on Linkedin" href="https://ezinearticles.com/share/?id=9985585&amp;site=linkedin" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener"><img class="site-sprite linkedin-icon" style="border: 0px solid #cccccc; background: url('//img.ezinearticles.com/spriting/theme/desk/site-v10.png') -44px -98px no-repeat; height: 20px; width: 20px; border-radius: 2px; opacity: 1; box-shadow: #999999 1px 1px 2px inset;" src="https://img.ezinearticles.com/spriting/trans.gif" alt="Share this article on Linkedin" /></a><a style="color: #a30006; width: 20px; height: 20px; position: relative; text-decoration-line: none; margin: 7px 3px 0px; float: left;" title="Share this article on Reddit" href="https://ezinearticles.com/share/?id=9985585&amp;site=reddit" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener"><img class="site-sprite reddit-icon" style="border: 0px solid #cccccc; background: url('//img.ezinearticles.com/spriting/theme/desk/site-v10.png') -22px -98px no-repeat; height: 20px; width: 20px; border-radius: 2px; opacity: 1; box-shadow: #999999 1px 1px 2px inset;" src="https://img.ezinearticles.com/spriting/trans.gif" alt="Share this article on Reddit" /></a><a style="color: #a30006; width: 20px; height: 20px; position: relative; text-decoration-line: none; margin: 7px 3px 0px; float: left;" title="Share this article on Pinterest" href="https://ezinearticles.com/share/?id=9985585&amp;site=pinterest" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener"><img class="site-sprite pinterest-icon" style="border: 0px solid #cccccc; background: url('//img.ezinearticles.com/spriting/theme/desk/site-v10.png') -65px -98px no-repeat; height: 20px; width: 20px; border-radius: 2px; opacity: 1; box-shadow: #999999 1px 1px 2px inset;" src="https://img.ezinearticles.com/spriting/trans.gif" alt="Share this article on Pinterest" /></a></div>
</div>
<p><a class="photo-container" style="color: #a30006; position: relative; float: left; margin: 10px 18.2344px 15px; overflow: hidden; box-shadow: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.3) 0px 1px 3px; border-radius: 5px; font-family: 'Avenir Next', Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff;" title="EzineArticles Expert Author Doron Gil, Ph.D." href="https://ezinearticles.com/expert/Doron_Gil,_Ph.D./742948"><img class="photo" style="border: 0px; max-width: 160px; display: block;" title="EzineArticles Expert Author Doron Gil, Ph.D." src="https://ezinearticles.com/members/mem_pics/Doron-Gil,-Ph.D._693798.jpg" alt="Expert Author Doron Gil, Ph.D." /></a></p>
<div id="article-body" style="font-size: 1.2em; margin-top: 18px; color: #333333; font-family: 'Avenir Next', Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; background-color: #ffffff;">
<div id="article-content">
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1em; padding: 0px; line-height: 1.5em;">In these times of social media it seems easy to "connect" with others, exchange dreams and wishes, profile photos and background information. Yet, in spite of such "easy" mechanisms to "meet" others, you might still find yourself alone, lonely, desiring to have an intimate relationship with someone "special" - but, alas, don't seem to be able to actualize your desire.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1em; padding: 0px; line-height: 1.5em;">So what stands in your way? Is it so that, after all, there aren't enough "others" in the pool of singles to choose from? Or could it be something in&nbsp;<em>you</em>, which might hinder your ability to find the intimate relationship you so much long for?</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1em; padding: 0px; line-height: 1.5em;">Well, it is easy and "comfortable" to believe that it is all a matter of not yet finding the "special one". It is convenient to think that "many out there" are just inappropriate for you.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1em; padding: 0px; line-height: 1.5em;">But is it really so? Could it also be that something in you, after all, hinders you from finding "the one and only"? And if this is the case, is there anything you can do about it?</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1em; padding: 0px; line-height: 1.5em;">Indeed, there is a lot that you can do about it. And this "a lot" can be summarized in one sentence: you need to get to know yourself better; to understand what it is that stands in your way from finding and cultivating a good intimacy; to realize what might have caused you to sabotage your relationships until now.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1em; padding: 0px; line-height: 1.5em;">You can call such a process "cognitive therapy" that you will take upon yourself to pursue all by yourself; or you can call this process "becoming aware", which will bring to the surface thinking and behavioral patterns which might have stood in your way from having a successful relationship until now.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1em; padding: 0px; line-height: 1.5em;">What it all boils down to is: are you willing, truly willing, to find out how you come across to others; what are your needs; how you might stand in your own way from cultivating a satisfying relationship; and, finally, how you can go about becoming self-aware of the many ways in which you might have - unintentionally and unconsciously - sabotaged your relationships until now, and how to make a change for the better?</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1em; padding: 0px; line-height: 1.5em;">Taking responsibility is the name of the game. Taking responsibility for your failures, as well as responsibility to becoming self-aware and taking the necessary steps to change whatever needs change.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1em; padding: 0px; line-height: 1.5em;">Becoming responsible and self-aware doesn't necessarily mean you need to stop "meeting" others on social media. The opposite might even be true: as you work on becoming aware, each and every person you "meet" can mirror something back to you and so "tell" you something about yourself. With each and every person you meet you can realize what projections you "throw" at them, and what causes you to project into them those aspects and parts of yourself: is it jealousy? Stubbornness? Stinginess? Shyness? Vulnerability? Insecurity?</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1em; padding: 0px; line-height: 1.5em;">The more self-aware you become the more you begin to observe yourself "as if from the side" and thus realize how you behave and think, and consequently what you need to change in your thinking, attitudes and behaviors in order to finally find and cultivate the successful intimate relationship you long for.</p>
</div>
<div id="article-resource">
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1em; padding: 0px; line-height: 1.5em;">Doron Gil, Ph.D., is a relationships expert, a university teacher, workshop leader, counsellor and consultant. His book "<strong><em>"The Self-Awareness Guide to a Successful Intimate Relationship</em></strong>&nbsp;is rich with real-life situations. Each chapter includes exercises which enable you to develop your understanding of the ways in which you might have sabotaged your relationships and thus pave the way to finding and cultivating the intimacy you wish for.:&nbsp;<a style="color: #a30006;" href="http://amzn.to/eAmMmH" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener">http://amzn.to/eAmMmH</a></p>
</div>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1em; padding: 0px; line-height: 1.5em;">Article Source:&nbsp;<a style="color: #a30006;" href="https://ezinearticles.com/expert/Doron_Gil,_Ph.D./742948">https://EzineArticles.com/expert/Doron_Gil,_Ph.D./742948</a></p>
</div>